Hello Friends,
It is September and parents and seniors are all in a panic. What should I have done this summer? Where am I going to college? "I don't have a list. I am not crazy about any college. Maybe I shouldn't be going to college." These are all comments I have heard from students along with "I will never get it to _____." Parents feel that their son or daughter seem disconnected. "He doesn't even talk to me." "I hate her college list." I hope he doesn't think he can go to _____." He did no SAT prep and he will never get those scores up. He will not get in anywhere."
Alright, less talk and more action. Parents - your senior cannot talk. Why? He/she doesn't even know how to explain how they are feeling. The transition is a bit overwhelming to him/her right now, senior classes plus the college admissions process in addition to any other extracurricular activities. You have to admit it is a bit much. And do we all need to be reminded that nagging just isn't an effective way to communicate.
Seniors, can you at least smile at mom, dad once this week and maybe share a few of your tasks with your parents. Maybe they can help with getting the teacher recommendation envelopes ready. Or maybe they could do a bit of work reviewing your resume to be sure all your activities, awards, etc. have been included. (Notice I did not say essay here- admissions wants to hear a young adult voice, not a parent voice. . . )
What's the best way to communicate. How about lunch or a movie together or maybe a walk in the woods, a bike ride together. College admissions shouldn't consume all your time. Smile, take a deep breath, give each other a hug. When it is all over, I guarantee you will say, "this wasn't so bad after all."
But for now, get going on that essay and you still have time to do some SAT practice before the Oct. 6 SAT.
Best Wishes,
Your College Connection,
Brenda Breton
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